I want to share my feelings with you because I want you to understand my struggle. I want you to understand my struggle because I think that my struggle might be felt inside you too during this time. I want you to see that you are not alone because it can feel really lonely being a strong gal sometimes.
People don’t intend to leave us alone, but sometimes they do because they think we can handle it.
Many describe me in such a beautiful way. They call me inspiring, caring, loyal and resourceful. They call me strong, powerful and make comments on how I have it all together. They see me discussing some of my vulnerabilities with my community and tell me that they wish they could do that too.
They see me pushing forward, achieving my goals. They see me as someone who supports others and be the person that others come to when they want to chat or need some perspective. And god I love it. I feel so privileged and grateful that others trust me with their thoughts.
When I face struggle, I tackle it. As a strong gal, I move head first into challenge. This doesn’t mean that I always do that. I dance around with doubt, fear, insecurities and “not good enoughs” every damn day. But what a strong gal does is move into it. This is what people see. They don’t always see or hear the internal dialogue, the crazy pages scribbled in the journal, the countless hours of coaching, the books read. They don’t always see the tears or see the worry or feel the sickness in the stomach.
With the territory of being a strong gal and the land we live in, sometimes we get forgotten.
Sometimes others think we don’t need support too. They say things like “you’re strong, you always figure it out” and leave us to our devices. We sometimes don’t get praise or comments about the work we put in because “I bet you hear it all the time”. It’s really hard for us to reach out for help, so when we do, if it’s not grabbed the first time we tend to step back and not ask again.
A lot of the time we don’t get people asking how we are doing or asking how they can help. I get it, the evidence of our life is that we do figure it out, we do crawl our way back out of tough spots but it doesn’t make it any easier. They think we can hack it and that we are not struggling.
We are struggling and we do feel alone when no one touches us with a barge pole because of the “she will figure it out because she is strong” mentality.
I know that our loved ones and the ones closest to us don’t do and say these things to hurt us. It’s a response to what they see.
I want you to know that I am here with you, I see and feel the struggles of being a strong gal. I know how lonely it can be in pursuit of keeping the pillars up.
I am here with you and always ready to take a phone call if you need it.
From one strong gal to another,
I love and appreciate the work you are doing.
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– Coach Ro