Are you scrolling through your social media at night (at lunch / at work
/ far too often…) seeing things that make you feel envious, frustrated
or make you feel pale in comparison to what you are seeing…or even make
you feel a little high and mighty and smug?
Welcome to one of the largest clubs on this planet: the tug and pull of comparison.
Social media can play a huge part this problem.
In one corner, it can be a fantastic tool for us to connect, educate and feel inspired by.
However, if we have a news feed that creates feelings of discontent, not good enough, not worthy enough, why not me…then it’s time to recognise and rectify what we are scrolling through.
Whether social media is the origin of our comparison inner cat fight, we can start to take control of our thoughts and actions.
So what can we do?
1. Identifying where and what:
First and foremost, understand where, why and what this comparison is coming from.
What is the source and what exactly is it that plays on your mind?
2. Write it down, get it out:
How is this comparison affecting your actions and behaviours?
Take some time to see how much this is consuming you and what it is stopping you from doing; are you wasting hours on end scrolling; are you making crappy decisions with your food; are you getting irritated and snapping at your partner as a result.
3. Alter your environment:
Identify your trigger or your source of comparison.
Become aware that these situations will affect your actions.
Simply becoming aware before it even happens allows us to be in a better position to tackle that situation and take control of our inner dialogue.
4. What could you pursue and achieve if you let that wasted energy go?
By recognising the time and attention you waste on this fruitless endeavour, what could you achieve instead?
Redirect your energy.
Use your resources and chase your own goals!
What we see on the outside is just that, the outside of someone.
It can often be the parts that they only want the outside to see.
You can’t see how they feel and vice versa.
Spend time on the person who closes her eyes each night.
We are all weird, wonderful, unique women. When we take the time to look inward and appreciate who we are, there just is no comparison.
Be bold, be brave.